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Coffee & Donuts with the Dearly Departed

Coffee & Donuts book cover

By Steve Frenzl (µž³Ü²õā€™70)

(Self-published, 263 pages; 2018)




Steve Frenzlā€™s (µž³Ü²õā€™70) two-volume fictionalized memoir, titled ā€œCoffee & Donuts with the Dearly Departedā€ tells the story of Steveā€™s adventures working as an apprentice at Boulderā€™s Howe Mortuary in the late 1960s.

If the needy young man looking for work to get through college in the late 1960s had known what he was getting into before accepting a job as a mortuary nightman, itā€™s safe to say there would be no book about it now. But he didnā€™tā€¦ thus began a two-year adventure that, for Steve, gave whole new meaning to ā€œthe dead of nightā€ and produced a uniquely revealing account of life (and death) as a morticianā€™s apprentice.

Voiced in the vernacular of a callow farm kid (where decomposing cows and butchered chickens provided practical pre-people training), his memories and musings cover most aspects of the death-care profession, including jaw-dropping (actually, locking) details of the embalming process, oh-my-God coronerā€™s cases, and even some dab-your-eyes love stories. In fact, his experiences tease all the senses, plus take readersā€™ heads and hearts on a crazy roller coaster ride ā€” all while tempering normally ghastly tales with humor. (Wellā€¦ mostly.) And thatā€™s thanks to the bossā€™s ever rosy reminders: ā€œDonā€™t forgetā€¦ the first three letters in ā€˜funeralā€™ are F-U-N.ā€

In addition to his book, Steve published the ā€œLife-Alone Planner,ā€ a free, digital workbook to help survivors prepare for life without their loved ones.